Dear Kristine~~~~You have done your research, you've been part of this website, you know what people go through to make WLS part of their life. It isn't a whim, it's not something someone decides to do and they go have it done in the afternoon-like having a manicure. People who aren't in our bodies, our minds, our situations can say all they want out of love for us but it doesn't mean they understand. Don't let anyone get you down-think things through one more time for yourself and then have your surgery if that is what you want. Just remember all the other diet books that you've looked at in your lifetime. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers for a successful surgery and an uneventful recovery. May God continue to watch over you and your family. Be strong. Lorraine