Pam... you have so many responsibilities, so many counting on you... by having this surgery, getting healthier, you'll have more to give!!! But try not to give yourself OUT, in the process!! (As in "none left") Your teen children & your husband can certainly help out, and I'm sure they will.. but remember you are bravely making this journey to give yourself and them a healthy YOU!!! You are worth it!!! Being 5 mos. post-op open RNY and down 81 lbs, I am a better self, wife and mom with much more self-esteem and stamina! Prayers and thoughts go with you! I'm proud of your courage!!! God bless.