Judy, I know exactly how you feel! I too am scared to have surgery because I am a single mom. My daughter is 6 and hasn't heard from her father in 3 1/2 years. My mom is very ill and 70, so if something happens to me -- what happens to my daughter? But, if I continue to get heavier and more unhealthy something may happen to me anyway, and she'll be in the same situation. My consult is March 18th, I can hardly wait! I will definately do this for myself and my girl. I wish you the best of luck with your decision. Keep us posted. Take care - Mary