Sandra, just a suggestion for the problems you are having. Get with your PCP and see if he will start you on a supervised diet. Most insurance co's require this anyway (DOCUMENT EVERYTHING!) and it should help your husband to see you are trying to lose by dieting, but are not successful at it or very little. Plus then you have a recent Dr. supervised diet history. 2 birds, one stone. If I had started a Dr. supervised diet when I first asked for a referal to the surgeon, I would have had almost a year of records before my surgery date. Hope this helps, just a suggestion, Elizabeth