Mindy R.

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mishy07 23 years ago

Thanks for your good wishes...I wish you the best as well. I know the wait is hard, but be patient. Once you get through the surgery the extra few months you waited seem like a blur!

Tami D. 23 years ago

Mindy, I usually give this e-mail to people who are terrified right before surgery, but it truly applies to your situation and I wanted to share it with you. I wrote this down after my surgery but it is the thoughts that I had all through my pre op phase worrying about leaving my children motherless... At this point being scared or nervous is perfectly normal. We all are. The thing I really found ironic for me and for others as well is that we fear the complications of surgery, what might happen, but while we sit there day to day MO.. do we ever truly fear the complications or even what we KNOW WILL happen if we stay that way. It’s funny how the brain works. You KNOW as a MO person you will or have gotten high blood pressure, diabetes, sleep apnea, and a host of other complications, but when we think about it, do we really fear that as much as the small possibility of surgical complications? We KNOW that as a MO person our likelihood of premature death due to the MO is almost a guarantee but yet, we fear to the point of losing sleep that we will be the one of the small percentage that will die from the surgery. Did you lose sleep worrying about dying before the idea of surgery came about? I know for me I rarely did, even though I knew it was a strong possibility. During my time preop when I was going through my terror stage.. (“oh my goodness what am I DOING to myself”???) I tried to always think back to what drove me to the decision to have surgery. During the first 4 weeks post op when I felt like S**T I went back to the same thing.. This really helped me. I knew things had to change and would change, whether or not I chose surgery. Either they would change with surgery for the better or without it for the worse, but I accepted that life as I knew it would change either way. So my decision was to change it on MY terms, for the better. Here I am now, 8 months post op, minus 110 lbs. and a new person! I can move, live and feel healthy now! My risk of death due to MO is gone, I have no more high blood pressure, pre diabetes, asthma, sore muscles (except from the occasional over work out in the gym *smile* ), sleep apnea, or stress incontinence. I can play with my kids, I can shop in a normal store for clothes, climb a flight of steps, and I no longer feel like when I walk into a room, store, meeting, or my kids school, that I am the center of attention due to my sever morbid obesity. Mentally I am so much happier, I don’t stress over food, I don’t stress about my weight, I no longer wake up in the morning thinking about how I will fail at yet another diet, or how I am going to get through another day. I have energy, happiness and a future again. That is what this decision for surgery and the surgery itself did for me. I pray it will do the same for you. May all your dreams and goals come true! Please feel free to e-mail me anytime for questions, concerns or just for some encouragement… Tami

Tonia A. 23 years ago

JUST WANTED TO LET YOU KNOW I READ YOUR PROFILE AND THAT I UNDERSTEND FULLY HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT THE KIDS. I DON'T WANT TO LEAVE THEM AT ALL BUT I WOULD BE ESPECIALLY TERRIFIED IF I HAD TO WORRY ABOUT WHO WAS GOING TO TAKE CARE OF HIM. JUST WANTED TO LEND YOU SOME MORAL SUPPORT. TAKE CARE AND BEST OF LUCK TO YOU.

judy W. 23 years ago

Mindy..........Don't let the ex continue to mess up your life! See an attorney about custody of your children in the event of your death. It may take some time and effort, but if your ex is this much of a mess, you need to have something in place. WLS may be making you think about your kids' future, but you could get hit by a car on the way to the grocery store!

MommaAngel 23 years ago

HI MINDY I just want you to know that I am praying that you will have a quick and smooth recovery to the losing side. LORD BLESS

Sharon Neva 23 years, 2 months ago

MINDY~~~BEST WISHES ON YOUR WLS JOURNEY~~ May the world hug you today with its warmth, and love.....Pray it whispers a joyful tun e in your heart.....And may the wind carry a voice that tells you there is a friend sitting in another corner of the world wishing you well!~~ Have you stopped the message board yet? It's an excellent place to find information and support