Kim2Xtreme
Hello ... after giving myself a year to lose weight, losing 30lbs, then hitting a plateau, and then quitting another diet, gaining back 20lbs, a year later then my deadline here I am. I started having problems with my gallstones, and found in my research that the gallbladder could be taken out at the same time as RNY. I started doing research, talking to some who I know who have had the surgery, attending seminars and post-op meeting. It all felt right. It sort of fell into place. I realize, after a lifetime of being overweight, nothing will change without a permenant change in my life.
I hope to have RNY, I have a consultation on 18 September 08. I am lucky to have a husband who is very supportive of what I want to do. There are others, mostly overweight family members and thin friends who want to tell you "so and so had this done and they are already GAINING back the weight, why do this?" or the thin friends who tell you how risky it is, like being over 100lbs overweight isn't a risk itself? I guess they just don't understand. I don't have any co-morbidities, I just want to lose weight so I can be around longer, live a better life, and not get that "look" from people. People don't want to admidt it, but overweight people are treated poorly. You can see someone you know at work, pass them in the hall and they barely glance at you and maybe say "hi" and they pass a thin person and they smile, make eye contact and say "Hello, how are you". Maybe they assume, if you are fat, you must not be doing well. It is all around us. People judge on body, the assumption is, if you are overweight, you must not be motivated, you must eat a LOT, you must be lazy, you must not care about your self-image. Yet, if I had high blood pressure, no one would judge me, they would medicate me to get me better. Why is that?
I have to be honest, I am doing this to live longer, have more energy for my family, and to really see how the other side of the world lives, I tend to think it is a friendly place, when people see YOU and not the weight.
I am nervous about this journey, and also excited about the future, I really don't like any type of surgery, but I know this is a journey I need to make.
