Hi Mary, I saw your question about needing help after lap RNY and I wanted to reassure you. We are all different, but my support group has three people who have had the Lap and we all felt fine afterwards (just tired). The only thing that I needed help with was lifting my HUGE bottle of laundry detergent from BJs from a high cupboard. Be careful about lifting, you may feel so good that you forget that you even had surgery. I had 5-1 inch incisions and they gave me no problems. I went back to work after 3 weeks, but I probably could have gone back in two. You shouldn't need any help with showering or bathroom habits. I hope this helps! Feel free to email me with any questions. BTW, I'm just over 3 mos. out and I've lost 58lbs! This surgery is a life-saver!