MELANY K.

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Donna L. 24 years, 6 months ago

Melany, when I first started my wls surgery, I had the same anxieties. They've calmed over the past couple of months. My surgery is on December 10 and I'm expecting to have these same fears emerge as the date gets closer. I have 3 daughters and leaving them is my worst fear. But I'm not the mom they deserve right now. They know I love them more than anything in the world, but I don't have the energy, patience or sense of well being that I feel I need to give them all they deserve. Also, I am frightened that I will die of a heart attack or stroke or I will pass my unhealthy lifestyle onto them. So, I will move through the fears and anxieties knowing my odds for a healthy outcome are extremely high, trust in God and my surgeon and go ahead with my new life. I hope you do the same. We are all here for you.

Linda B. 24 years, 6 months ago

My thoughts and prayers are with you... I am going in on Monday... 10/22. I am afraid. I am a singel mom and am so scared of what will happen to my daughter if I die. I want this surgery though so that I can be there to see her grow up...

Liz K. 24 years, 6 months ago

Melany, I went through the same thoughts....I think every mother does. The night before my surgery when I said good night to my 3 children I thought...is this my last time seeing them?? It was a tearful event but I didn't let them see me upset. I just kept in mind that my health was poor and that I was merely existing anyway. I wanted a chance at a better life so that I could enjoy living and doing things with my husband and children. Basically I put my trust in God. I didn't know what else to do. I will pray that God will give you peace in whatever decision you make. May God bless you!

Diane B. 24 years, 6 months ago

Melany, I am so sorry that you read the memorial page this close to your surgery. Yes, it is important to realize as Al so eloquently stated that this is major surgery and that yes you can die. On the other hand the Type II diabetes you have (and other co-morbidities) are slowly robbing you of many aspects of your life and will continue to stealthily steal your eyesite, your vascular health etc. If you do nothing you can just about bet, given the odds (even if you could lose weight without surgery, the rate of keeping it off is <3%), that your health will continue to deteriorate. On the other hand if you look at the mortality rate associated with the surgery it is 1-2%: 98% SUCCESS versus 97% FAILURE for other weight loss methods for the MO-I think those are odds that I can live with (and will on 12/3). Best of luck-remember-it will NEVER be any easier than now. Diane

Sharron J. 24 years, 6 months ago

Melany There is no way to promise everything will turn out perfect,but I do promise you this,I and everyone on AMOS is thinking about you and prayering for you,just know that all of us are mentally holding your hands now, and will be as you enter your new life.

Raulene C. 24 years, 6 months ago

Melanie...I was just reading the posts and some gal wrote a smart note to another member who is due to have her surgery within two or three days, she suggested that she turn off her computer and spend the weekend with her family and relax in the knowledge that she is making a good descision. Go Girl...you are going to do good! Do this for your friend and your son. We will all be praying for a wonderful uneventful surgery and a quick recovery. And remember.....we all luv your guts!l...Raulene..mprint@netze.com

MELANY K. 24 years, 6 months ago

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MELANY K. 24 years, 6 months ago

WELL, MY SURGERY IS 5 DAYS AWAY AND I'M FEELING A LITTLE DISCOURAGED AFTER READING THE MEMORIAL PAGE ON THIS SITE. IT'S SO SAD TO READ ALL OF THE POSTS THAT THE SURGERY CANDIDATES POSTED ON THEIR PROFILES ABOUT HOW EXCITED THEY WERE TO HAVE THE SURGERY AND A CHANCE AT A BETTER LIFE, THEN YOU READ ON FURTHER AND SEE THAT THEY PASSED AWAY. THE FRIGHTENING THING TO ME IS THAT NONE OF THEM EXPECTED IT AND KNEW THAT EVERYTHING WOULD TURN OUT JUST FINE. I AM HAVING A REALLY HARD TIME DEALING WITH THIS. I AM A TYPE 2 DIABETIC AND I ALSO SMOKE. I'M WORRIED THAT THESE FACTORS MAY AFFECT THE OUTCOME OF MY SURGERY, GOD FORBID. FOR A MINUTE I EVEN THOUGHT OF BACKING OUT OF THE SURGERY. I HAVE AN ALMOST 2 YEAR OLD SON AT HOME AND THE THOUGHT OF ME PASSING AWAY MAKES ME SICK TO MY STOMACH. I WANT TO LIVE TO SEE MY SON GROW UP MORE THAN ANYTHING IN THIS WORLD. PLEASE PRAY FOR ME AND I WOULD GREATLY APPRECIATE ANY WORDS OF ENCOURAGEMENT. THANK YOU--- MELANY

Mary H. 24 years, 6 months ago

melany, i pray that you have an uneventful surgery and a speedy recovery mary hughes

Connie Z. 24 years, 6 months ago

Good Luck Melany , God Bless you and keep you in his loving arms. I wish you a safe surgery and a speedy recovery.