My Letter
I am a 28 year old single/ mother ofa total of 5 children 3 children ages (13,12,10) not with me and 2 with me ages(7 and 2). I have been overweight since I got pregnant with my 4th child on 1994 and am the typical, "you have such a pretty face" type of girl. Nothing makes me madder. The weight has controlled my life in addition to making me unhealthy. It's summer time again and I refuse to put on a swim suit. I'm so embarest of myself I wear black whether it's 100 degrees or not. I want to go to the water park with my kids, I want to go to the beach, I want to run,jogg,jump,climb, skate,I want to live....my latest embaresment was when i went to japan to visit family on the united
airlines i hardly fit in a ecconamy seat I couldnt get the tray to come down all the way to eat even, and when i got there the first think my BF mother said was she s fat unfortunately i understood because she said it in english with her japanese accentshe said exact words momason skinny nae? tinason fat. i eat just like everybody else maby even healthier i follow a 1600 cal diet i exersize as much as i can with my richard simmons vidios i do a weekly support group on richards website do a weight check in. saddly i still have not moved be side a little bounce then i gain it back againi do like to eat in volume so i watch what i eat and how much no more than 1600 cal a day for my hieght and weight and use the food mover as well.Ive tried all the fads besides phen phen. I tried
metabo life,
trim life,
slim fast,
healthy choice, and smart ones
low fat
non fat,no sugar,salt,or butter
juice fast,
water fast,
I'm only 5.2, I'm 216 lbs my goal ideal weight is 104 lbs. min for docs. I have 112 lbs of fat to donate to youit could make a whole other person.I'm shaped like a apple, and I get ??'s from people asking me how far along I am and frankly I'm hurting because of this I don't even want to answer people when they ask and honestly sometimes I lie and say im 8 months because, I do look that far. I don't like this feeling, hurting, sad, ugly, fat. I have hard time getting to sleep at night to, and when I wake up I still feel sleepy all day. Most the time I wake up with pain as well in my back just from laying down. I tried everything pillows between the leggs, side, other side, back, stomach, even thow that is so uncomfortable. I feel like a upside down boat, and it's hard to breath if I lay on my stomach. When I sit up streight
my stomach partly rests on my leggs, and when I wear a dress without pantyhose my thys rub raw it's also hard to even find panty hose that fit a short but fat peson. I seem to be swollen at least 75 % of the time in my leggs hands feet arms and stiff feeling from being so swollen cramping in my elbows, hands, and fingers. and if I walk to long or try to jog even for 2 min I have hard time breathing usualy end up huting my knees,and or foot, and or ancle.
Andyways with my 3rd child he was breech so they did a bikini cut from
hip to hip on me and about a week later I got a bad infection that leaked yellow smelly stuff out of it and I imidiately went to er and got the problem fixed so I do know alot of the complications and it can lead to death but at this point it is neededand thats a sacrifice I'm willing to live or die with.I know there are chances I will be one of the few to die or have complications and I'm willing to face that. I've been there befor. And I know there are chances I will be a success ans is wich I hope the best for myself I deserve it. and I'm worth it. And Myself, my children, my family would be so happy if things work out as we hope. I could realy use the energy most of all so I can play with my children Like I hardly done before compared to what i could do if this suceeds.
I love my kids, I love my family and my boyfriend, I'm still working on loveing me. But they mean the world to me. and I want to be the best me I can be for meyelf and most of all them, and right now I don't feel like I am all I could be if the surgry goes right. I want them and myself to be proud of me not embarest of me like my daughter is at school shes only 7. and my Boyfriend won't say it but he acts like he is embarest to be seen with me almost anywhere he will never walk by me
he acts like he don't know me but he wont admit it. He does tell me I'm fat, I'm lazy, need to do more exersize but I do, and I am and have been trying for the longest time when he's not looking, because the way he makes me feel, and the way I feel personaly about myself is equal to
just about what he and my children thinks.
Bottom Line is I want to be healthy again and live life to the up most
and fullest I can.
Tina Marie Rutherford
July 2nd 2002
216 lbs BMI 39
complications
depression
slep apnea
back trouble
knee trouble
blood presure
swelling
arthritis