Hi Laura
I'm sorry your husband is having difficulties accepting this huge decision. But you really need to sit down and have a talk, a serious one. Maybe he's worried that you'll lose all the weight and find somebody new? Maybe he just needs some reassurance that he's still and always going to be the important one in you life.
Good luck. I really hope that things work out for you. and if you need help, i'm sure that there must be some WLS support groups in your area, and there are always plenty of people willing to help out and give support where its needed. I'll keep you and your family in my prayers