Neglectful but back

Mar 02, 2007

Once again I have been neglectful in posting, mostly because there has been little to say. I have had a year of some obstacles that have kept me away from the surgery path. Its been so long since I have been here you all changed the format on me! :) Nice new look though I love it! 

I just wanted to briefly say that I have my first appt with the people at Duke on April 3rd 2007!!! YAHOO. I am on my way finally and my mission this year is to let nothing get in the way of this new life. 

Its late though so I am gonna cut this short and vow to myself to write again very soon!

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Mar 02, 2007

Nov 4, 2005

WOW I knew it had been a very long time but no idea it had been this long. I have been through a lot of ups and downs over the past year and a half. I lost my brother just after the holidays last year to Cancer. The previous 6 months were constant care and so my own needs and wants we placed to the side. Once the depression set in I lost it. I sunk deep down and it has taken me a very long time to pull out, actually not really feeling whole yet. However I have made 2005 the year of me and so I have worked on some very good goals. All of which would lead up to me being in a position of FINALLY being able to walk into Dr Enoch's office and say....I am ready!!! Well ladies & gents the time has come....I secured a very good job last week with decent benefits and I am ready. I have been working and insured but I was broke broke broke not making good money and spending an arm and a leg for benefits. But that is no longer the case and I am ready. 2006 will be my WLS year. I plan on starting the process in Jan. I will update you as I know more, gonna write more here as I know more. Just came here to browse some and thought I would update however I am EXHAUSTED. Will talk to you all soon!!!


May 11 2004

Ok so another dead end. The insurance that I was refering to above does NOT cover the surgery and the salesman apparently had no idea what he was talking about! BACK TO SQUARE ONE!

May 8th 2004 

OK I am back end this time I think I have some good news! Well I know I have some good news but these days I never believe anything I hear on until it actually happens. This past week I met with an insurance salesman for a company that can provide me health insurance for $200 a month that is with a larger deductible. I specifically asked the representative is the surgery that I am interested in covered by his health plan. He claims that I should have no problems getting approved as long as I wait the initial six months which is considered the clause for pre-existing conditions. I am a bit overwhelmed by the information actually a better word is skeptical. I am actually on here tonight so that I can see if the plan that I am going to take on has ever been used here by patient as well as the reading for the company itself. I did not sign on with the company and have not made a complete choice felt I needed to do a little more research. But I do plan on making that choice by the end of this month and I have one more insurance company to talk to. The only thing at this point that could change the quote that he gave me as my medical records. He asked me specifically if anything was on my medical records and I explained to him that the only issues I've had in the past are some back pain which is the truth. I have not been treated for back pain in over a year. I had severe issues last year however with a lot of physical therapy I took care of that. My plan is to write a letter to the insurance company along with my applications so they will understand that at the present time I no longer have any back issues hopefully that will help me keep the cost of my insurance down. He also explained that the company that I originally had quote me for insurance are legally obligated to am sure anybody in North Carolina that is not covered by state insurance and therefore is longer you are willing to pay for it their willing to insure you. Which logically thinking that would drive the prices of for all consumers of that company at least I would think so. Bottom line it looks like I may actually be on my way. I cannot explained to you how much of a relief this has been to me over the past few days since I met with this man. I immediately went to the store and bought a bunch of better food that I should have been eating for the past six months since I have been in self-destruction mode. I have always preferred the Atkins low carb diet that are then any diet I have been on. (The millions of diet I should say) So as of today I have been drinking my water, eating my protein, cutting carbs and they even cleaned off the dust on my bicycle and took it for a spin. I feel like life may actually be in foward mode again. Since I moved to North Carolina it has been nothing but a stumbling block a feel like I'm in a car that just keeps hitting the same wall over and over again. I lost my desire to socialize and have been completely depressed. In turn I have gained a lot of pounds and I just feel horrible everyday I want to cry when you look at myself in the mirror. I am 29 years old and I am officially the largest I have ever been. I don't even know what that weight is right now as I have not weighted myself officially in months. When I first moved here I thought I was good to be well on my way I would get my state care as I was on not an employed and on disability and a former company for my back issues. But I was eating well and trying to exercise as much as I could. Then once I started taking this wall it just became a downward spiral. Today for the first time in a long time I don't feel sad I don't feel like things are going to get worse I feel like I met a turning point for things might actually get better. I need to share this always you. I am still on hold as far as who my doctor will be because I do not know if Dr. Enoch were the hospital take my particular insurance that I am applying for. I will be in touch with you all in the cars that. As soon as I know more I promise to tell you all about it. And maybe just maybe someday soon I will finally get my lazy butt down to see you all at a meeting. I hope that you were enjoying this heat especially those of you that are losing those pounds because I am sure that you have a new lease on life and well for me at least summer always seems like a time of freedom. For those of you still pre-op or playing the waiting and researching game like me I hope that this summer is bringing you some joys as it seems to be bringing me. With all my love here in Garner!


April 25, 2004

Well I just needed to write about what is going on in my head. I think sometimes when the thoughts are on paper things seem a bit more clear...you know what I mean. So, due to many student loans and some other things I do not have a healthy credit history. I will not be able to get financing at this time. I have been peeking on the South of the Border Forum in re to flying to another country for my surgery and self paying. I am on the edge about that...I know about the after care of this surgery and being in another country and all for it away from those who support me....well its a bit intimidating. However, the stories and suggestions I have gotten in re to it are postive. It will take me a long time to come up with the funds....therefore I have time to think about it. MY GAME PLAN as of today is to start to save for a self pay, clean up my credit and begin to drop pounds so that I am thinner at the time of surgery. My thought is that within a year I can put half the money down for a surgery and get financed for the rest as well. I am going to continue to search for private health care that is affordable as well as obesity friendly. Those are my goals. I did not make it to the support group today because my brother had plans and we share a car at the moment. I dont know if Dr Enoch will be doing my surgery when I will be having it or if I will even ever get it....but at this point I am staying with all of you that have been so supportive. I will continue to check in as things progress. You all take care and I wish you the best of luck!


April 24 2004

I should not have even gotten up this morning! I have had nothing but a bad day all around. Well I was approved but they want 660.00 from me every month. THEY HAVE TO BE CRAZY! I can not believe it. I waited all this time thinking that this was my ticket. I can not and will not pay 660 a month for insurance. I talked to a rep from the State today and it does not look like I am eligable for health coverage through medicare either. I am at square one. I am going to try for financing for my surgery. I applied to the co on this site and I am reseaching though the net for other means as well. Wish me luck especially now that I am at square one again!


April 20th 2004

Ok Well last week I was told that I should have a word on my insurance as of this past Friday. It is now Tuesday with no word. Its not that I am afraid I will not be covered medically its can I afford it and will they approve me for pre-existing conditions or not. I am going to call there tomorrow AGAIN and see what the deal is. I just wanted to drop a line and let you all know I am still here trudging away. As of right now I have nothing planned for Sat so I am thinking I will be going to my first LOSERS meeting! How exciting! Hope to see you all there!


March 31, 2004

Well let me see there is not too much to really tell here but well I will update you a bit. I filed for my insurance with Blue Advantage BCBSNC and well it has taken sometime. First they claim they did not get in mail then I faxed then they said missing a page so I refaxed to them then apprarently I forgot to answer one question so then I had to refax AGAIN! SO that was frustrating see the thing is if it is not there on time well I could not be covered for a pre-existing condition. Which by all measures legally my obesity is not pre existing but well you and I both know they would fight me on that one. So the waiting game has begun. I am calling them tomorrow they have had about 4 working days since the last fax so I will contact them in the am to see what is up with all that.

Went on a vacation since I was last here. That was depressing I mean to see those pictures come back. WOW I am going to break the scale soon. I guess as soon as my work schedule settles and well the nice weather STAYS then well I will make more of an effort. (Boy we all have excuses huh)Well anyhow I guess that is all to really say! I will be in contact as soon as I have better information

Feb 25 2004

Well here I am again. I have been printing out all your stories and reading them as bedtime stories. Needless to say I usually drift off either in tears at how happy you all are or elated that I may someday be there too. So, there is this commercial on the TV here in NC that talks about affordable coverage for those who pay for medical insurance. Of course I never write it down or anything but 2night my sister in law and I racked our brain to figure it out. Its BCBS of NC (think its called Blue Advantage too though) Anyhow I am calling them in the am I got a great quote online of course they dont know I am over 250 perhaps even 300 lbs with that quote so lets see how much that changes. If I can keep it below 200 I would pay for it as it is worth it to me. I do have a back up though so hold on lol...I did get a job at good old Walmart and it fits my schedule and what not. I am much more qualified for other things but I am not looking for a career now I am simply looking for an employer that will give me coverage and get me through the operation. Then I am onto better things lol! Well they have coverage but I have to wait 6 months yes you read that right 6 months! I could not believe it. I nearly fell over! I could not believe that wow that is a LONG time. I will still if I have too but well if I dont then I am not going to. I need the coverage. I need to get out of this rut. My energy level is horrible. I seem to be tired all the time. Well cross your fingers for me I will update again soon.


FEB 20 2004 

Again a very long time and not so active at all here. I have had various emails from many of my NC buddies here and they have been great to me. I have not even attended a meeting yet and feel as if I have met a great group here. Well I wanted to make a bit of an update to let you all know that I am still stuck in the limbo. I have had some issues getting insurance since I moved here and well without insurance it is not possible for me to move forward. Right now I am trying to obtain a part time job that does give insurance. I am confident that is will nto take long to find one but who knows before I am covered. In the meantime I feel like I am digging deeper into a very depressing state. I was at my wits end when I made this choice and now I feel like hope is fading. I try to keep the researching and just being active in my own personal way but it has been such a rough transition moving here that I still dont feel settled at all. I am not doing a thing about my weight at all I just can not seem to get my spirits up at all. Its like waiting in traffic and never getting anywhere at all. Well that is that and I will keep you all updated on the job and insurance info as it happens. Going to make a promise 2night to remain active on boards and what not to keep my spirits up.

Nov 2003 

WOW what a long time since I have been here. Guess I will start by letting you know what is up with me and then browsing the site. I MOVED from MA to NC in August and I am just now settling in. I have not been actively pursuing a surgeon or studying up because I needed to get some other things situated first. Although before I moved I did look up surgeons in this area and I was so surprised to find out that there are shorter waiting periods! YAHOO Back home in MA I attended one support group meeting to find out it would take about 1 1/2 years before I would see the inside of a surgical ward. THAT IS FRUSTRATING! Once you have made this choice you are already at your wits end and then to wait that long.

Since here I have been LOW CARBING it just to be ready and to drop some pounds before hand. I have been trying to walk the dog more but during the last 2 weeks that has been put on the back burner. I have been drinking lots of water and just thinking of the day when I will finally be at my goal weight and all the things in between. I have not been actively pursuing much simply because right now I am still covered medically by a prior employer but that will end soon and I figured why apply for surgery only to reapply with a new insurance co. So I am going to wait about another 2 months ...the holidays will be over and my WLS Journey will begin.

I am excited about being back on the board as I am interested in meeting and chatting with people nearby. I have met not a single soul since being here really. I have family here and that is it...not that that is not good. LOL But I am not home here and have not become "social" yet!

Well all I will keep you updated as the months crawl by! You all take care and I wish each of you the best of luck

WITH MUCH OF MY LOVE



Feb 26 2003

I want to say something to all of you out there... I can only hope to be as supportive as all of you! I have posed some questions to some people out on these boards and have gotten so many great and TIMELY responses. I am trying hard to keep it all organized but sometimes I am all confused as to who you are and what I thought was remarkable about you. The few that run support groups for Dr Enoch have been overwhelming as well I mean that in a good way. I was still in MA and they were inviting me to cookouts and what not. I am a procrastinator by nature and still have not made it down so a meeting though. I have piles of research upon which i have scribbled with names and email addresses and telephone numbers of locals that have all contacted me to lend some support. I just want to say now before I even get into the heavy duty insurance testing and surgery issues that I already need love and appreciate your support and kind words. I mean that from the bottom of my heart and well perhaps this processs will lend me the kind of hearts you all have. ( not that I am not kind just not as up on things a you all are HA) I wish you all health happiness n success.

Posing a question here and on boards plus giving you a brief update now. Ok so when you all had had it and could not bare another day of this weight and were ready to start the process what did you all do to motivate some weight loss b4 surgery. I want to get down some b4 getting into that operating room but my motivation is at its lowest not to mention my self esteem. I know how to do it hell i have done it all but can not get moving on any of it I am so down and frustrated and hopeless at this point I dont want to deal with that at all. That was the question.

Not much to update but that my insurance paperwork is in the mail will get it fill it out and then it takes about 2 weeks to find out what it will cost for me. That is that.

Ok you all have a good one will be back soon!

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