Tammy F.

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I have seen it posted many times, "When we have this surgery, they operate on our stomachs, not our heads." This was definitely brought out in me last night. I was so mad after hubby and I had a huge argument over the fact that he works two jobs and I work all the time and we never have time to just settle down and spend time with each other. We never have money to do anything either if we do have time off work. Hubby is mad because he decided about two weeks ago that he wants to take his vacation time around July 13 and I can't because it is a busy time at work for me. Of course, it is always busy at work for me and I will probably never be able to get a day off. I work for a newspaper. We have one reporter (if that is what you want to call her) that really needs to be let go. But the boss won't do anything about it. So hubby is mad over that and the fact that I am the one working all the hours while she makes more money than I do. But she has been there longer. Anyway, so what do I do when I get mad? I start to not care anymore about the past year that I have worked so hard to lose 138 pounds. I head straight for the food, not good food, junk food. You see, when I was heavier hubby never cared if we spent five minutes together. If we did spend time together, he was watching TV or reading the paper. Now he feels like we should be together as much as possible. That wouldn't bother me if I didn't feel like he was only doing this because he doesn't trust me. He makes comments all the time that I am going to leave him now. Our relationship was less than perfect in the past because of some choices he made. So now he thinks I will pack up and leave. He is jealous because I work at a job that I like and I actually can talk to people now. I love my new body but I hate my hubby's new insecurities.

My before weight was 275, I now weigh between 137 (on a good day) and 140 (bad, bad day). Started with a BMI of 50.3, now it is 25.1. Still considered overweight for my height but only .2 away from being normal. Once I loose one more pound (on good day), I should have a normal BMI. The most positive thing that has come from this whole experience is the fact that I have finally learned that life is what I make of it. When I was heavy, I was miserable. I hated life and I really didn't care if I ever lived to see another day. As soon as I was approved for the surgery, I made a promise to myself and God that I would never let life get me down again. I decided that I can wake up each day and decide to be miserable or I can wake up each dy and decide to be happy. Yes, there are times that I wish I had more money or a better house or more clothes :-) but I am truly happy for the first time in my life. I often see people posting how bad they felt they were treated as an overweight person and I just suddenly realized, maybe we feel we were treated bad because we had such negative attitudes. Maybe people really are only treating us better now because we are easier to get a long with because we are happier. I know I am much more approachable now that I ever was before.

I had been stuck at 140 for several weeks but got on the scale this morning and WOOOHOO, I am at 138. I have lost 2 pounds this week and I am only 8 pounds from my personal goal. I have lost 137 pounds. I am literally half the person I used to be. But in my heart I am twice the person I ever was. :) That is so awesome. Watch out, Jerry. I have told him all along when I reach goal I am going shopping big time for new clothes. :)

This is my response to a post titled, "Is it what you expected?": I have made my WLS journey what I want it to be. I know the surgery is not a cure all and I knew that it would not change my whole life. BUT I made a choice to CHANGE my life on my own. I made a promise to myself that since I would no longer have the extra weight to BLAME for anything, I would be the one that must CHANGE my own life. I make a choice each day to see the positive and live life to the fullest. I know many people that had surgery thinking they would just automatically become happy as the weight fell off. Once they realized this is not true, they started searching for other reasons to be unhappy. Now that they have lost the weight, they won't be happy until their bodies look like that of a teenager that has never had an issue with their weight. I know that I will never be able to afford plastics and no, my insurance won't cover any of it. I also know that if I didn't abuse my body for years and put on the extra weight, I wouldn't have to worry about looking like a Shar-pei puppy. But I am happy with the weight loss and I will learn to live with (and cover up) the extra skin. But I will be happy regardless because I am HEALTHY.

I am over one year post op now. I know several people that have had WLS and thought that the surgery would be a cure all for the problems in their lives. I have figured out along this journey that it is up to me to make the choice to be happy. I have decided that God has put me where I am for a reason. My life is by no means perfect but I won't let the little things get me down. The day that I was approved for surgery, I decided that I would not allow anything else to make me miserable. I have not met my personal goal yet but I am determined that I will. In the meantime, I will continue to feel blessed by the things in my life. I have lost 135 pounds. I am healthy, I have a gret job and a great family. What more coud I ask for?

I am now at 140 pounds. I am 10 pounds from my goal. I am hoping to reach my goal soon. I am only 4 pounds from being at a normal weight for my height. I have lost 135 pounds. If I reach my goal, I will have lost more than I weigh.

I am happy. I lost 3 pounds this week. I haven't done that in quite a while. The most I had been losing is one pound a week. I am now at 143. Hoping to reach 130 by May 11 but it will take a lot of work on my part. I have been really busy at work lately. Having a garage sale next weekend. Hoping to make some extra cash from that. I have lost 132 pounds, that is a whole person. :)

I had quite a scare on Friday, March 23, I fainted. I was at our local PD visiting my husband my sister-in-law while they were working. I had been standing talking with them. I got really dizzy all of a sudden and fainted. I went to the ER, had blood work and an EKG. Every thing looked OK. Dr. said he thinks I just fainted. I'm thinking maybe I was dehydrated. So I am really making sure I get my liquids in now. I had been getting somewhat dizzy sometimes when I would stand froma sitting position bu never the way that I felt right before passing out. It's a good thing that it happened there though because if I had been home alone, I probably wouldn't have told my husband. I hate to make an issue of anything with me and we really can't afford the doctor bills right now. I am sure his insurance won't pay for the visit to the ER if they think it was caused from the gastric bypass. I had different insurance when I had it done and his won't cover anything to do with it.

Well, today I am 10 months post-op. I still think it is the best thing that I have done for myself. I am actually living life now and loving it. My biggest problem is that I love to shop for clothes now and I like to do my hair and make-up before leaving the house.
When I was trying to have this surgery, I prayed and prayed about it. I made promises to myself that I would completely change my attitude about life. I feel that I have done that. I have been tested a lot lately but I am not letting it get to me. I am keeping a positive attitude. 
I am hoping to reach my goal by my one year anniversary but if I don't I won't let it get it to me. I will just keep trying. I thank God everyday for this surgery. It has changed my life so much!!!

Although I have lost 125 pounds so far, I am still considered somewhat overweight. I would like to lose at least 20 more pounds. My husband seems to think I don't need to lose any more but I was at 130 pounds when we met when I was only 14 and I would like to get back to 130. That would also put me at a normal BMI. I am only 5 foot 2 inches tall so 130 is not unreasonable for me. In fact, some charts say 99 to 121 pounds is ideal for me. I just don't see me getting that small. I will be happy with 130.