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Patty L. 24 years, 1 month ago

Patricia, I know exactly what you mean about fear of losing your fat self. For me and for many of us I think there is comfort and protection in the weight. Protetion from mens advances and comfort in the foods. But now I feel so much better and I can always take martial arts lessons and learn to feel confidence in my new body. Good luck with your surgery. I will keep watching for your posts

Sharon W. 24 years, 1 month ago

Patricia - what a great revelation you have just had. You are not off base here - this eye-opener happens to most of us at some time or another. There is always a mental component that goes along with being MO. For me, I found I have been hiding behind fat as an excuse for many things, and I have come to embrace myself as I am and cannot imagine the "thinner" me. But I'm game to find out! She is probably as wonderful as I am now, and MORE. And I would guess the same for you. It will help you now that you've had this eye-opener and you will have the chance to work through it quickly as you lose. (Therapy is not such a bad idea - if you get the right one - if you are going to do it I recommend finding one that has WLS experience). It only hastens the "mental" part of the recovery. I wish you the very best in your exciting journey. Sharon

tonitreadway 24 years, 1 month ago

Hi, I'm Toni from Georgia. I just read your post about being afraid of losing you "fat self". Girl can I understand where you're coming from!! You are not alone and it's not stupid - it's completely real! I am 7 months post op and have literally lost my fat self (down from a size 24 to a 12/14, and some 10's). While I'm lovin shopping and compliments, I somehow find that every now and again I feel sad, almost lonely. I was the fat girl forever, always used "fat" as an excuse for everything. I've never really been thin, it feels strange and sometimes I don't know how to act. But I know for sure that I am healthier than I've been my whole life and the feelings of sadness and fear about my fat self are going away!!!! It's amazing! Hang in there girl, you'll be proud you did!!!! Best to you on your journey. Toni Treadway, Lap RNY 9/4/01, start 240, current 149!

RODEO CLOWNS S. 24 years, 1 month ago

I wish you all the best on your upcoming surgery. I could not wait to lose the fat me, I was very ready for the other me that I always knew was lurking somewhere inside. Just say good-bye and good riddance forever!!! My husband and I both had wls in 2001 and have lost a combined total of 280 lbs. We would do it again in a second.

Diane H. 24 years, 1 month ago

I am sorry to hear about all of your complications. I haven't heard from you in a while and odviously alot has happened since then. Please call me if you need me. I am here for you. diane

Jacqueline A. 24 years, 1 month ago

Patricia, best wishes and congratulations to you. We have the same surgery day, Have a wonderful new life and may all your dreams come true...Jackie

Annette B. 24 years, 1 month ago

Patricia--A new LIFE will start on April 23rd. Good Luck on your upcoming surgery. My prayers and thoughts will be with you. Best wishes for a speedy recovery. Annette

Janet I. 24 years, 1 month ago

Congratulations on your upcoming surgery. Hopefully I won't be far behind you. May you be blessed with an easy surgery and a rapid, painless recovery. Don't forget to drink your water, get enough protein, take your vitamins, exercise and... CONTINUE TO MAKE YOUR DREAMS YOUR REALITY

has2begreen 24 years, 1 month ago

Patricia THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR YOUR WARM WISHES!! GOOD LUCK TO YOU TOO!!!! HAVE A SPEEDY RECOVERY AND AN EASY SURGERY :) HUGS JANIS

brenda00 24 years, 1 month ago

Good luck on your upcoming surgery. Just remember to walk and cough alot, and you will be up and around in no time. I'll be saying prayers for a safe and uneventful surgery and speedy recovery.